Tuesday, June 12, 2012
Just caught this movie the other day--which was quite good, by the way-- and
it contained this fantastic song about the difficulty of being 'inbetween' jobs and
the psychological transitioning that takes place. Good stuff.
The movie on whole was quite good; not entirely joblessness related, but
it had a good bit of the plot dealing with how people take firing, and how
widespread a trend it has become. Some of the interviews and such were quite
good and relatable.
The movie did deal with reexamining one's place in life, priorities, growing up
fast, finding your own path, etc., so in many ways it's a great flick for facing
uncertainty, whether it be joblessness or middle age or other life change.
Monday, June 11, 2012
strong when so much of your world is spinning out of control.
The only thing left to do after countless, seemingly pointless
interviews, business start-ups, networking, and applying for
work can seem to be something that will make us 'feel better'
and, hopefully, distract from the harshness of reality. (Or,
in many cases, the surreal, subjective sense of 'reality' we are
burdened by in our fugue state.)
You feel shitty on the insides, so letting the outside reflect
it (or not even noticing it's happening) can sneak up on you.
But our obligation is to self, and health and care of self.
While short-term stress relievers can alleviate the distorted
image of ourselves we develop from constant rejection and
(perceived) failure, the long-term effects don't serve us in the
While I have maintained my sobriety and stayed clean from
drugs, the temptation to 'treat' myself with unhealthy foods
as a quick-fix comfort solution has been a difficult beast to
tame. And of course, bad eating habits spiral into bad sleeping,
bad body chemistry, sluggishness, and more. We can do
ourselves far more harm than good.
I find myself channeling the old Bette Midler skit;
"Why bother ?!"
Same for being sedentary and not keeping our body in
shape, active, etc. We feel the effects of that. Our depression
may keep us from feeling a desire to participate, but our
knowledge of what's best has to rouse us from our slumber.
It's basic, and easier said than done;
*Keeping up appearance and hygiene.
*Staying connected to people as much as possible
(or finding new contacts!)
*Keeping spirits up with positive activity, music, thoughts
*Moderate alcohol consumption (or abstaining if you have
*And I would caution people to stay away from any drug
proclivities all together; between cost, risk of addiction
and dependence, and effects on work readiness, it's
just a disaster waiting to happen.
*Processing emotions through therapy, journaling, blogging,
online support groups, etc; Don't hang on to it all!
Sometimes the act of taking care of self has to be implemented
before we feel like taking care of self.
Treat yourself right and start today; whether or not the work
is forthcoming, you still have to live in your body!
(And obviously, the better you take care of yourself, the more
likely hiring or starting up a business is, compared to the alterna-
tive of letting yourself go!)